FORGIVENESS ~ MY WORD FOR 2010

After a ton of reading yesterday I can across something intriguing to me. I was on ALI EDWARDS blog and noticed she for the last 4 years has been doing something different instead of a new year resolution. I fell head over heels for the idea and decided to adapt the same concept in my life this year. Ali learned about word of the year from a lady named Christine Kane. I have a link to her blog & website set up on my blog. Go check her out. She has a site that you can go to and sign up to receive a free easy to download word of the year worksheet discover tool. I did just that and came across techniques that made me actually put some thought into my word.
I am not listing everything in the worksheet word for word. You really need to make a copy for yourself. I've listed parts of the worksheet and figured if one other person walks away from this challenge and gets anything from it than I did my job of spreading the word. Hopefully it's a positive learning experience for everyone.

1. AUTHENTICITY~ allow yourself to shine through in your word.

2. AWARENESS~ this is key. This means everything in your life can be a teacher- including your own reaction to the things.

3. CLARITY~ (I LOVE HOW SHE PUTS THIS PART IN THE WORKSHEET) Letting go of the how

PART ONE: INTENTION & CLARITY: KNOW YOUR WHY

WRITE THE WORD OR WORDS YOUR ARE CHOOSING FOR THE UPCOMING YEAR.
F O R G I V E N E S S

WHY IS THIS THE PERFECT WORD FOR YOU THIS YEAR?
It's time to let go of so much of the past that has been holding me down.

IF YOU EMBRACED AND LIVED THIS WORD DAILY, WHAT WOULD BE DIFFERENT FOR YOU?
I believe it would allow me to have a greater peace with myself as well as others. Move on to bigger and better things that maybe I did not think I was worthy of.

IN WHAT WAYS DO YOU ALREADY LIVE/EMBODY THIS WORD?
I try to forgive people but I tend to not forget and that only holds me down.

IN WHAT WAYS DO YOU NOT LIVE/EMBODY THIS WORD?
I mean well by forgiving others but rarely forget. Not healthy, I know.

IF YOU WERE TO LIVE THIS WORD DAILY THROUGHOUT THE YEAR, HOW WOULD YOUR LIFE BE DIFFERENT ONE YEAR FROM TODAY? WHAT WOULD YOU HAVE CREATED OR ATTRACTED? HOW WOULD YOU FEEL?
I know overall I would feel better about myself. It would attract a more positive outcome not just to me but my family and those people around me. It would allow me to "move on" for a lack of better words. I think it would life a huge burden I've carried/struggled with for years.

PART TWO: AWARENESS & ELIMINATION: KNOW YOUR TRIGGERS

WHAT OLD PATTERNS OR BELIEFS HAVE KEPT YOU FROM LIVING THE WORD UNTIL NOW?
I hold grudges. I hold grudges with myself and in return neglect things that I should not. I turn to food for comfort in these moments of weakness. Okay so I must have a ton of those weak moments because I have gained A LOT of weight in the last year.

LIST AT LEAST THREE THINGS THAT TRIGGER YOU TO "SHRINK" OR TO RUN IN THE OPPOSITE DIRECTION OF YOUR WHY?
1. Not succeeding on the first try
2. Realizing it's hard to change and not having the energy to push forward
3. Losing sight or focus due to rejection. Giving up when others don't notice
4. Depression setting in and diminishing my self worth
5. Allowing negativity to be my mindset

LIST AT LEAST FIVE POSSIBLE "PATTERN INTERRUPT" HABITS YOU CAN PRACTICE IN THE EVENT OF ONE OF YOUR TRIGGERS OCCURRING.
1. Call my dad
2. Call a friend
3. Go for a walk
4. Pray
5. Write to express my feelings

LIST AT LEAST FIVE NEW PROACTIVE HABITS OR PRACTICES YOU CAN INCORPORATE INTO YOUR LIFE AS MEANS OF SUPPORTS YOU IN LIVING YOUR WORD MORE FULLY, AND THEREBY DIMINISHING THE POWER YOUR TRIGGERS HAVE OVER YOU.
1. Appreciate the fact that I am not perfect (work in progress)
2. Learn I can not change others and move on to what makes me happy or brings me relief
3. Journal or blog as an outlet to release instead of doing so toward other people
4. Start reading daily inspirational quotes, books or bible verses
5. Scrapbook or do a craft to get my mind off the negative and remind me of better times

PART THREE: DREAM BIG: KNOW YOUR VISION

LIST AT LEAST FIVE GOALS - BIG OR SMALL- THAT YOU'D LIKE TO ACCOMPLISH THIS YEAR, BASED ON THE WORD YOU ARE CHOOSING.
1. LOVE MYSELF AGAIN
2. Smile more and enjoy the little things in life such as laughing
3. Have a better definition of self worth ~ See improvement in my health and overall being
4. Express feelings in forms other than yelling
5. Accept people for who/what they are and be able to MOVE ON

WHAT WOULD BE A "HOME RUN' FOR YOU IN THE COMING YEAR? THIS CAN BE A BIG DREAM, AN AMOUNT OF MONEY, A WAY THAT YOU LIVE EACH DAY. WRITE AS DETAILED AND IMPERFECTLY AS YOU CAN!
A home run for me would be seeing my family together again and happy. Accepting each others faults and learning and growing from each other. If we can't all be under the same roof hopefully we will grow stronger while apart. I have a feeling this is going to be a year full of learning from the mistakes of our past and LETTING GO in order to find HAPPINESS!!!!

Final Instruction: Use your voice to seal your intention. I'm doing this by my post now.
I'd love to hear thoughts and feedback. Feel free to email me if you don't want your info posted to the world. crown_jewels@sbcglobal.net